How To Spend More Quality Time With People You Love
Thank you to Wente Vineyards for sponsoring this post. As always, all opinions are my own.
Although I’m an introvert by nature, spending time with people I love fuels my soul. When you find people in your life who “get you,” it’s important to hold them as close as possible.
I’m grateful that I have friendships that have lasted even though we don’t see each other often. When we catch up, it feels like no time has passed. That being said, I’m happiest when I get to spend quality time with my people – laughing, reminiscing, letting loose, and getting away from my to-do list.
I’ll admit that I’m not always the best at keeping in touch or making the first move when it comes to spending time with people. I have, however, been making a conscious effort to make plans ever since I chose my word of the year: connection. I’ve planned dates with friends, booked a trip to LA to visit old college friends, chosen family time over work time, and gone on weekend adventures with my other half.
Instead of convincing myself that I can do everything alone, I realize that making memories with people is more important than watching Netflix solo (although I’ll admit a Netflix-binge session is good for the soul sometimes). When I look back on the best memories in my life, they all happened when I was spending time with people I love.
Of course, it takes a conscious effort to spend quality one-on-one time with people. Most of us are not really present in our relationships and end up taking them for granted. As I mentioned in this post, there is always something fighting for our attention – whether it’s social media, advertisements, or emails.
Instead of letting distractions get the best of us, let’s find ways to be present with the people we love. Keep reading for 12 ways you can make the most of your time with your loved ones!
“Instead of viewing the time we spend with friends and family as luxuries, we can see that these relationships are among the most powerful determinants of our well-being and survival.” – Dean Ornish
Recently, Wente Vineyards launched their #MakeTime initiative to inspire people to say no to distractions. When we look at how much time we spend looking at our phones, checking our friends’ status without asking them how things are, we only distance ourselves from the people who mean the most to us.
After watching this video, it’s clear that we need to use our time more wisely. After all, we’re all here for a good time, not a long time.
Together with Wente Vineyards, I’m encouraging people to Make Time for each other to create memories that truly matter. By making time for people beyond the distractions that rule our everyday lives, we can change our relationships for the better.
12 Ways To Spend Quality Time With Others
To help you #MakeTime for what matters, here are 12 ways you can spend quality time with the people you love! Bonus points if you put your phone away and focus on staying present while you’re with your people!
1. Go for a walking date.
We’ve all had coffee dates with our friends before, but have you tried going on a walking date? Whenever I go for a walk with my mom, sister, or a friend, I find we end up freely talking about whatever’s on our minds. There’s no pressure to keep your voice down like there is in a coffee shop, and you get the added bonus of some fresh air while connecting with others.
2. Take a weekend trip.
Nothing says bonding like an overnight trip with people you love. Whenever I’ve had a weekend away with my girlfriends, I’ve come back feeling like we’re closer. Maybe it’s to do with sharing close quarters or having random late-night conversations, but a weekend getaway is always good for the soul.
3. Host a game night.
A little friendly competition is a great way to bond with your friends and family. Whether you play card, board, or video games, so many inside jokes can happen when you play against each other. I also find game nights encourage you to be present in the moment without the distraction of a phone.
4. Go to the market.
Whether it’s a farmers’ market or a flea market, wandering around the market is a great way to spend time with your loved ones. You can walk around the booths and grab some tasty bites, all while catching up with whoever you decide to bring.
5. Make dinner together.
Food truly does bring people together, and the act of cooking with someone can be an adventure of its own. From finding the recipe to getting the ingredients to making the meal, the whole process allows you to create special memories together – with the added bonus of eating delicious food at the end.
6. Host a wine and cheese night.
A wine and cheese night is a great way to entice your friends and family to come over so you can spend some quality time together. After all, who is really going to turn down wine and cheese? You could even add some board games or karaoke to the agenda. Bonus points if you make everyone leave their phone at the door!
7. Go for a picnic.
Picnics are a great way to bring people together, even if it’s just you and your partner. If I could go on a picnic every weekend, I would (unfortunately the Seattle weather doesn’t allow that). There’s something so satisfying about packing a basket full of good food, rolling out a blanket on the grass, and enjoying the company of others.
8. Go wine/beer/cider/coffee tasting.
There are so many different types of tastings these days, which makes it super easy to find something your friends can do together. Whether it’s wine, coffee, or cider tasting, gathering with your friends to try something new is a great way to spend quality time with them.
9. Explore a new part of town.
If you’ve run out of coffee shops to meet at with your bestie, try exploring a new part of town together. Wandering around a new place without an agenda or relying on Yelp can make the whole day feel like a fun adventure. You might even find your new favorite coffee shop together.
10. Volunteer or attend a charity event.
There’s nothing better than giving back to your community while spending quality time with others. Scope out a local volunteering opportunity that you can do with a friend or family member, like building a community garden or helping at a food bank.
You can also see if any non-profits in your area are hosting auctions or galas. These events are super fun to attend with a group of friends, and the proceeds always go to a good cause.
11. Take a class together.
Whether you want to learn how to dance or make a floral arrangement, taking a class with a friend or partner is a great way to spend quality time together. You might be terrible at the class, but you’ll definitely end up with some great memories together.
12. Start a project together.
Working on a project is a great way to spend quality time together. Maybe that’s building a dresser with your hubby or starting a podcast with your bestie. By working towards a common goal, you can enjoy the process of creating something wonderful together.
How do you #MakeTime for others?
I hope this post has inspired you to reach out to the people you love and schedule a quality time date with them. Let your loved ones know how important they are to you and encourage them to #MakeTime for what matters!