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Why Searching For Answers Is Keeping You Stuck

Have you ever avoided doing something because you didn’t know the right way to do it? Have you also spent an entire week researching ways to do something instead of getting started?

I was taking a walk the other day, and I thought to myself how hard it can be to get started on something because I want it to be perfect the first time.

We all want to get things “right”, but why is that so important? Is it because we’re afraid of failure or embarrassing ourselves? Because we don’t want to waste our time?

Why You Need To Stop Searching for Answers

When we feel as if we need to do things the “right” way, we tend to look for advice from other people. What starts out as a quick search can soon turn into an obsession that wastes our time before we’ve even started.

In this post, I’m sharing why it’s time to stop searching for answers instead of doing the work. I hope this post helps you realize what you already know so you can learn to rely on your own guidance.

The Issue With Searching for Answers


If you’ve been staying up late at night searching for answers to your problems, or you’ve been asking everyone you know for advice, you might be dealing with a limiting belief.

Constant searching is a sign that you have a limiting belief. This belief tries to convince you that you can’t make choices or decisions by yourself.

Since starting The Blissful Mind back in 2014, I’ve spent hours researching the best methods for building an email list, launching a product, writing better blog posts, etc. I’ve also spent A LOT of money on courses, programs, and memberships. Many of them legitimately helped me, but some simply weren’t worth the money.

The posts and programs that didn’t help were the ones I found because I was searching for answers. And they didn’t help because I already knew what I needed to do. I was just avoiding doing the work because I didn’t believe in my ideas. I wanted an easy way out.

Searching for answers is usually an avoidance tactic because we don’t want to take responsibility for our lives. We want others to figure things out for us.

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Why You Feel Stuck


Of course, there can be merit in following other people’s advice. For example, if they can help you avoid struggles they went through or cut the time it takes to do something in half.

But when we force answers to come in an attempt to do things the “right” way, we are often met with disappointment. Here’s where that disappointment comes from:

Misalignment

You might feel disappointed when the advice someone offers you isn’t in alignment with what you would do. You may admire their success and want to follow in their footsteps, but their methods might not align with your values or priorities. When that happens, it’s easy to feel like you’re not good enough or capable of being successful yourself.

Unqualified advice

Plenty of people are there to offer you advice on what they would do, but that doesn’t mean it’s what you would do. When it comes to taking someone else’s advice, you have to consider whether they’ve been through what you’re dealing with. For example, if you’re struggling to grow your blog, taking advice from someone who knows nothing about it won’t get you too far.

Overwhelm

Trying to force answers to come can lead to more frustration and confusion than when you started. Maybe you’ve been trying to piece together random advice from multiple sources, or you’ve taken so many notes that your brain feels like it might explode. When you overwhelm yourself, it only pushes you further away from the answers you’re trying to find. Your motivation starts to disappear because you don’t know where to start.

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How To Create Your Own Answers


Spending all your time searching for answers? Think about what you would do if you couldn’t get the answers from anyone else.

What would be your plan of attack if all you could rely on was your own ideas?

Your options are to:

  1. Quiet outside noise and listen to what comes to you
  2. Start taking action and figure it out as you go

Okay, but what if I start following my own advice and end up making a huge mistake? We all mess up and do stupid things. Most of the time, this happens because we do the opposite of what our intuition tells us to do.

Should you stop taking advice from others completely? No. There are people out there who are incredibly wise and can help you get ahead in life. You can listen to others, but tweak their advice to make it work for you.

For example, you’re reading this blog post where I’m giving you advice. Whether you were searching for answers or not, I always encourage you to take what I share and make it your own experiment. Take what resonates with you, test it out, and make new discoveries for yourself.

The key here is to dig into what you already know and make your own decisions so that you can increase your confidence. The more you become aware of what you’re avoiding, the greater chance you have of overcoming it.

How do you deal when you don’t have all the answers?

I hope this post has encouraged you to listen to what you already know and not get caught up with doing things right the first time. You have the answers you need already. Find them within.

Catherine Beard
Hi, I'm Catherine! I'm a mindset coach who helps creative overthinkers organize their thoughts, overcome their doubts, and uplevel their minds so they can stress less and take action.

16 Comments

    1. Thank you so much. I have struggled with my writing and find myself reading more about writing than writing. This is definitely helpful.

  1. Hi Catherine😁This post came at the perfect time for me because I had started a blog, but haven’t posted yet since I am working on making some YouTube yoga videos to post. Thank you so much for your advice! I love your blog! Enjoy your day!

  2. This reminds me of the fear assessment in the book Do It Scared by Ruth Soukup! Procrastinator/Perfectionist is the #1 fear archetype (and definitely a struggle for me, along with people-pleasing!) You kind of touched on this a bit, but I also feel that when I have done too much searching and trying to force a result that what came out of it was not aligned with what I really needed. Thanks for sharing this!!

  3. Spot on. Analysis paralysis is a huge blocker for me. There are so many times when I realise that I know what I need to do, I just need to work out the next step to take. But then procrastinate by looking for distractions and completely different ways of approaching it. This is terrible in the long run. Usually the right answer is staring me in the face, and it’s accessible to me right away. Thanks for this reassurance. I’m not alone! Great post.

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