We all have those moments where we feel totally restless and bored with life. Sometimes it goes away once you switch up your routine or try something new, but other times it gets to the point where you’ve been feeling unfulfilled with your life for weeks, months, and maybe even years.

One of the main reasons this feeling lingers is because we’re searching for happiness. To me, happiness is a strange concept. I don’t believe that anyone can really find happiness because it’s a state of being, not an object. It’s also not likely that anyone can be in a continual state of happiness if they do find it since life is always throwing curveballs at us.
Instead of falling into the happiness trap, I’m a big advocate for living with contentment.
Contentment, or the state of being content, is about peaceful satisfaction. It involves appreciating what you have and where you are in life, rather than wishing things were different. Of course, I’m not saying you should simply settle for a life that doesn’t bring you joy. Rather, you should continue to dream big, set goals for yourself, and work towards them diligently – just remember to enjoy the journey and not rush to make it happen.
The strange thing about contentment is that it’s possible to feel fulfilled inside yet have outer struggle at the same time. That’s because contentment celebrates the good in your life while simultaneously working through the bad. Whereas happiness may come and go, being content is something you can continually work towards.
If you’re hoping to cultivate more contentment in your life, here are seven ways to help you with your journey!
7 Ways to Feel More Content
Live your values

When your actions and thoughts are in line with your values, you are able to be your authentic self more easily. Being your authentic self is ultimately going to provide you with a greater sense of contentment.
What do I mean by values? Values are essentially what we care about most in life. They provide us with motivation, they give us energy and/or calm us down, and they give us a sense of fulfillment. Values are what drive you toward what it is you want out of life.
If you find that you are dissatisfied with life or constantly thinking about the future, ask yourself if you’re honoring your values in your daily life. If not, make a plan to honor them every day.
Not sure what your values are? Here’s an extensive list of values to choose from. Go down the list and write down any that pop out at you. The goal is to narrow the list down to about five values that are the most important to you. If you’re having trouble identifying your values, think about the things that make you feel motivated, passionate, fulfilled, and rewarded.
Related post: Are you a high-value person? Here’s how to tell.
Nourish your mind, body, and soul

I talk about this a lot on my blog, but it’s only because I legitimately believe it’s so important. If you want to feel more content with the way you are now, start taking care of yourself inside and out. Sometimes we stay focused on the future because we imagine ourselves healthier, slimmer, happier, etc., but the only way to get to that state is to take action right now. There are plenty of ways to take care of yourself, but here are some ideas:
- 30 ideas to nourish your mind, body, and soul
- 5 mindset shifts that make healthy living easier
- 10-minute chair yoga for stress relief
- How to start a self-care routine
Play up your strengths

We spend a lot of our lives trying to change what we don’t like about ourselves. If we aren’t changing them, we’re complaining about them. It’s hard to shake off the mentality that we have to be good at everything, but the reality is that everyone will have their weaknesses.
Rather than focusing on what I’m not good at, I’ve learned that it can be so much more beneficial and productive to continue developing my current skills and strengths. A great resource for discovering your strengths is this Character Strengths Survey (you have to make an account, but it’s free). Once you’ve pinpointed your strengths, think about how you can use them to the best of your ability. This way you can spend less time dwelling on the things you don’t like about yourself and more time living a fulfilling life by emphasizing the parts that you do like.
P.S. In case you’re nosy, my strengths are humor, love of learning, good judgment, social intelligence, and creativity.
Embrace your curiosity

We often repress our curiosity because we can’t see the value it might add to our lives. I know I’m always curious about other people, but I tend to shy away from asking questions because I’m afraid of coming across as nosy. There are also certain activities I’m curious to try like kayaking and paragliding, but something always holds me back from signing up for sessions.
If you’re feeling bored with your life, never downplay the power of curiosity. Asking questions and learning about new things can give us so many answers, even to questions we never knew we had. We can either embrace our curiosity or spend our whole lives wondering what it might have been like to talk to so-and-so or do this-and-that. Be curious about everything, and you’ll never be bored.
Start a mindfulness practice

A mindfulness practice is one of the best ways to cultivate inner peace and reduce stress. The definition of mindfulness is being present in the moment without judgment aka the ultimate way to find contentment wherever you may be. Mindfulness is about appreciating where you are without striving to change anything or make something happen. If you want to start enjoying your life more, try doing something three days a week that will help you to stop living in the past/future, whether it’s meditation, yoga, or a nature walk.
Related post: 5 ways to practice mindfulness when you don’t want to meditate
Reverse the negativity bias

We as humans have a knack for focusing on the negative. We make a huge deal about the things that go wrong in our lives, yet when something good happens, it has less of an impact on us. There’s actually something called the negativity bias which says we react to and learn from negative stimuli more intensely than positive stimuli.
To reverse this negativity bias, we need to focus on fully experiencing the positive experiences in our lives. When something good happens to you, try to really savor the moment. Write it down, take a picture or video, tell somebody about it – anything to keep it alive as long as you can. Feel it becoming a part of you. This doesn’t mean you need to suppress the negative things that happen, but rather give the positive things more attention.
Related post: 5 quotes to inspire a positive mindset
Keep a gratitude log

Often when we hear about expressing gratitude, we think of the people and things that we’re grateful for. Our friends, family, partners, home, car, food, etc. Of course it really does help put things into perspective when you think of your life without those things, but I would say to go even deeper when it comes to gratitude.
Think about your accomplishments, how you handled your day, how your own values came into play, which strengths you’re grateful for, what you’re proud of, what you’re excited about, and what’s good in your life right now. Most of the time we forget to be grateful for ourselves, so start giving yourself a little more daily self-love through a gratitude log.
Your Turn!
How do you find contentment in your life? Leave a comment below!
38 Responses
Seriously, LOVE your blog. The topics you cover and the style of your writing is superb! Keep on keeping on!
https://barebonesofcourtney.wordpress.com/2016/08/17/my-2-favorite-wellness-blogs/
Omg thank you so much, Courtney! That means so much to me :’)
Wonderful treatise. Written in an excellent way. Was highly helpful.
Vijay
Just found your blog on Bloglovin’ and I love it! I struggle so much with being content so this specific post really spoke to me. Love your writing!
Patricia
http://www.neverendingjoy.com
Thank you, Patricia! Your words are super encouraging! <3
These are really useful tips! :)
Yay! Thanks, Francisca!
Wow, this part blew my mind: “The strange thing about contentment is that it’s possible to feel fulfilled inside yet have outer struggle at the same time. That’s because contentment celebrates the good in your life while simultaneously working through the bad. Whereas happiness may come and go, being content is something you can continually work towards.” Amazing, I’m saving that quote! I love that you differentiate contentment and happiness, it makes so much sense and your outlook on it is SO wise.
If you ever publish a book some day, I will be first in line! :)
Omg Naomi you are too sweet! I hope I can write a book sometime! That’s the dream haha
Great post! Thanks for sharing these tips <3
Marie
marietheresebatt.com
Thank you for reading, Marie!
Great tips! I really like the part about practicing gratitude. Daily I write 5 things I’m grateful for in my journal and it helps me stay in good spirits.
Siobhan
http://www.befreeproject.com
Thanks so much for reading, Siobhan!
Love these tips! You know, I’ve really noticed #6 since starting a blog – or more specifically the Instagram account associated with the blog. I’m more on the lookout for the small joys in life so I can capture them and share them on Instagram, and that small act of taking a picture, thinking up a caption, and sharing it makes me really appreciate it more than I do otherwise, especially the simple joys like curling up with a good book and a nice cup of tea.
I’ll have to explore curiosity more, though; while I may joke I have the curiosity of a cat, I’d never realised there was an association with contentment. Thanks for sharing :)
Yessss I’m all about taking pictures of simple joys! I remember them much better that way.
Thank you for your great advice I love it..the way you wrote it how to be content and struggling outside.and learn to have a peaceful mind .thank you so much ,help me a lot ms. chaty? I love you ??
I really love this post and how it starts off with the fact that it’s not realistic to be happy all the time. These are all great tips, some that I practice and some that I need to do more of. I don’t write down my gratitudes, but I’ve been trying really hard to focus on them at night instead of replaying the bad in my head before bed!
That’s a great idea to think about what your grateful for at night to combat the bad thoughts! Love it.
This is so great! I love the alternatives to feeling like we have to chase a certain notion of “happy”. Thanks for your thoughts here.
Thanks for reading, Daisy! <3
Hi Catherine,
I really enjoyed this article. I think the first point of “live your values” really made sense. Too often we have tried to mold our life on someone else values and expectations. We didn’t realize that we are unique and special in our way. That explains our general unhappiness with life.
I find being grateful of what I have now while mindfully setting my goals really help in staying contented. It prevents emotion of greed and frustration from creeping up and overwhelming my thoughts.
Cheers,
Kenny
Glad to hear you enjoyed this post, Kenny! Love that you are setting mindful goals
Love this post!
Great article Catherine! I hope you don’t mind – I linked your article to a post I wrote about leaders creating contentment within their organizations (http://coach1up.com/2019/05/15/great-leaders-create-contentment/). Your article is perfect for explaining what contentment is to the individual. I believe organizational contentment is very important for an organization’s health as much as it is for an individual’s health.
I love the part you saying how people making a big deal of those bad things happens and neglect those good things. Nice tips on how everyone should feel content with life !
Thank you so much!
Just yesterday i was about to make a bad decision that could destroy my future because i was getting impatient. Today i woke up and decided to get help and read on things that can help and this came up. Thank you.
You’re welcome, Adetutu!
Wow the content is so contentful . Very much thankful to you Catherine for your invaluable wisdom making available for all. Keep going
Thank you so much, Sreenath!
I think that people who have chronic illnesses or disabilities (like my wife) are challenged with the idea of being content. Any thoughts that might help them? Thanks.
Thank you Catherine for this excellent post.
I am a certified life coach (and an older man), and your part about contentment really resonated with me. When I ask my clients what they want as an outcome of working with me, many of them start off with saying that they just want happiness. So, I ask them. Is happiness all you want to feel, because then you would never be able to experience any of the other amazing emotions that we humans are capable of? Then they ask me what I like to feel, and I answer, “contentedness”. This is because when I am content, I am open to all emotions and experiences that come my way, because I am living in the moment. I am present. Living in content also allows me to accept what is. I have to work at this.
I also wanted to mention your discussion on values. I encourage you to try this experiment. Before you start on your list of values, spend 5 minutes silently thinking of everything you’re grateful for. If another thought comes into your head during this time, thank it for sharing and let it go. Try to spend 5 full minutes just thinking thoughts of gratitude. Then, make your list of your top 10 values. I use this technique with my clients when we do a values exercise, and they are always astounded and humbled by what they find out is truly important to them.
Thank you again for your wonderful post.
John
Thank you so much for sharing, John! I like what you said about only wanting happiness and not being able to feel any other emotions. That definitely puts into perspective that happiness isn’t always what we should be seeking!
This purposeful message reached me in the way I needed. Thank you.
I just came across this blog post because I was looking up “how to feel more content with my life.” This was seriously so helpful because it gave practical ways to apply this to my daily life. I often feel like my happiness comes and goes so fast and it leaves me feeling unsatisfied. I want to start living a more mindful life and being grateful for the things that I have in the present moment. Thank you so much for this wonderful post!
I’m so glad to hear this was helpful, Katie!
I am not done yet reading but definitely this one is great. Thank you for this.
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