Post Updated on October 1, 2021
Do you ever find yourself wishing that stuff would just be over?
Sometimes I get caught up in a trap of wishing that everything was already in the past: a work event, a tough project, writing a blog post, or maybe even an entire day.
I might make plans with a friend only to wish I could actually just sit in bed watching Netflix at the end of the day instead of having to go out to dinner (that’s a terrible thing to wish upon yourself, but I bet my fellow introverts can relate).
If I don’t have to make a presentation until the end of the day, I’m going to spend the whole day just wishing it was over. I’ll worry about everything under the sun that might go wrong. But what sort of a way is that to live? Am I wishing my whole life would just be over? I don’t want to think like that.
Worrying does not take away tomorrow’s troubles
I’m sure there have been times when you’ve dreaded doing something and it’s actually not been that bad. Sorority recruitment in college was definitely one of those things for me. After worrying for weeks because I hated the idea of non-stop chatter for three days, I realize that it taught me to be patient, keep a conversation going, and how to smile even when I didn’t want to.
Only when the dreaded thing is over can I realize how silly I was being. Work events actually end up being fun despite the stress and dare I say I actually enjoy giving presentations (who am I?)
Expect nothing and you’ll get everything
Instead of spending my time wishing things were over, I’m going to make a conscious effort to be excited about what’s coming up, no matter what it is. I’m going to think about what could go well instead of what could go wrong.
It’s all about consciously tuning in to your mindset and focusing on how you choose to feel about something. You choose to wish it was over, just as you can choose to be excited about it. Tell yourself you’re excited, even if you’re terrified. It’s all a matter of perspective and focusing on the positive.
If you spend your whole life wishing things were over already, you’re not enjoying what’s going on in the present moment. You’re creating a negative image of the event in your mind before it’s even happened.
Why don’t we start looking forward to things – every little thing that you can possibly imagine? Just try to enjoy the journey because getting there is half the fun.