Letting Go of What Doesn’t Serve You

let go of what doesn't serve you

Last Updated on June 7, 2022

The reminder to ‘let go of what doesn’t serve you‘ is everywhere. You’ve probably seen it floating around on your Instagram feed at some point.

But what does it really mean? How do we know what’s serving or not serving us?

If we use the definition of serve as ‘to be useful or of service to’, the advice translates to letting go of what’s not useful to you anymore.

Ultimately, that could mean things that:

  • take away your energy
  • drain you mentally and emotionally
  • make you doubt yourself
  • give you nothing in return
  • serve no real purpose in your life

We’re still in a global pandemic, and I imagine that we’ll all be processing these emotions for a long time to come. Even if you haven’t been directly impacted by the virus, the past two years have taken a toll on everyone’s emotions and mental health.

Let go of what doesn't serve you

If you’re clinging to the remnants of things that comfort you during this time, who am I to say that you need to get rid of them. We all want and need to feel safe.

But maybe you’re attached to things that aren’t providing any value to you anymore, such as the need to be in control, tasks that could be done by someone else, goals from two years ago, or those wilting plants that aren’t coming back to life.

Does anything come to mind for you?

One thing I know I need to let go of is feeling like I need the answers to everything. Like I can’t start something new or write about a topic unless I already know the answers. But that’s not how life works, is it?

Sometimes in order to let go, you need to figure out what you want to embrace instead. Maybe it’s embracing less and keeping everything minimal for a while (clothing, books, the number of people you follow on social media, etc.).

Try asking what is nourishing you, what is providing you with comfort, and what is giving you the energy to do the things you want to do (or let’s be honest, the basic necessities that you need to keep yourself going).

There is power in making space for what you need.


Here are some super simple ideas for letting go and making space:

Physically:

  • dust the corners of your apartment that are accumulating nasties
  • get rid of your dying plants (make room for new ones!🌿)
  • donate the clothes that you’re never going to wear

Emotionally:

  • watch a movie that you know will make you cry (in a good way)
  • listen to music from your childhood
  • wash the emotional support blanket on your bed

Mentally:

  • brain dump everything out of your head onto a piece of paper
  • do something for an hour that doesn’t involve a screen of any kind
  • close the 100+ tabs open on your computer right now

What will you let go of?

I hope this post has given you something to ponder on when it comes to letting go of what no longer serves you.

Catherine Beard
Hi, I'm Catherine! I'm here to help you get out of your head so you can stress less and focus on what matters.

13 Comments

  1. Noticed that most of what I do not let go of is unconscious. It really takes a lot of work to dig deep and find what is holding me back. For me, it is impossible to let go of things I don’t know. I need to find them first, extract the wisdom after months of work and then I can let it go. But it takes soooooo long…

  2. From time to time I got rid of unnecessary things. During the last move, I threw a lot away, gave it away, but still, I see some “trash” in my home. It is a never-ending process.
    Music from my student days always energizes and pleases me. That’s working.
    I’ll try your advice on movies, thanks.

  3. Nice Post!!
    Most people don’t have a good relationship with themselves unless they are actively working on the journey. Tap in with us to listen to our journey and how we’ve developed a healthier relationship with ourselves.

  4. Hey Catherine,

    Love the post. What really stuck with me was your concept of ‘let go of what doesn’t serve you’. This made me think of my friends that I had in high school. Although I still enjoy their company, you eventually outgrow people and that’s okay. I’ve moved to a new city, and although I’m still trying to meet people, I’ve grown exponentially from where I was just a short 5 months ago. Thanks for the advice, keep up the good work!

  5. Very wise advice. It’s important to let go of things that are draining or no longer serving us. These are great tips. I love the idea of asking yourself what is nourishing your and gives you energy. Thanks for sharing:)

  6. Love this idea of making space, physically and mentally, in our lives! You’re so right, things and thoughts pile up and clutter our lives unnecessarily. Such a good reminder, this will be so good for our inner wellbeing! :)

  7. That’s a very nice reminder Catherine. Time and energy are precious and limited in life. My view on this is that letting go of what doesn’t serve us ensures our time and energy is spent on what matters… to keep us healthy, happy, fulfilled in life and moving towards our goals. You made me laugh when you suggest we close the thousand tabs open on the computer this very minute ( ah ah ah…nice touch…some of us really do use the computer this way :-))

  8. Hey, I was scrolling randomly then your blog title caught my attention which was posted months ago. Yeah, I think, it is not about only the things that we should let go of, sometimes we need to let go of the toxic people in our lives wherein they were the cause of our stress, self-doubt, overthinking, etc. Thanks for reminding me to spend my time on the things that are valuable and worthy.

  9. This is such a necessary topic and blog post! I think we can so easily become attached to things and not take the time out to evaluate the purpose they have in our lives or even why we’re so attached to them. One thing that has helped me is taking a personal audit of my lifestyle, possessions and thoughts/feelings. Looking at what I hold onto and whether it serves me for the ‘greater good’. You look at things more critically, and objectively but you have to be harsh with your evaluation.

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