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5 Mindset Shifts That Have Changed My Life

If you want to live a positive and fulfilling life, it's important to cultivate the right mindset. Here are 5 mindset shifts that will change your life!

Your mindset plays a huge part in how you view yourself and the world. With thousands of thoughts floating around in your head every day, you essentially talk to yourself more than anybody else.

The mind houses our emotions, judgments, worries, and secrets, and many of us don’t even realize that our own thoughts can be holding us back from reaching our full potential.

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Because the mind is such a powerful place, it’s important to constantly grow and adapt your ways of thinking. You have to continuously work on shifting your mindset to embrace new perspectives if you want to change your life.

In this post, I’m sharing some mindset shifts that have improved my life in a positive way. Keep in mind that I am no master of these things. There are times when I do none of the following and wallow in self-pity, but I can usually pick myself up from a bad situation and turn it around with the help of these mindset shifts.

5 Life-Changing Mindset Shifts

1. Trust that better things are coming

I’m lucky that I’m naturally quite an optimistic person. No matter what happens to me, I’ve always been able to keep moving forward. Part of this is my belief that better things will always come to me if I work hard and don’t give up.

When I was at a job that frustrated me on a daily basis, I found other ways to keep myself sane. I went for walks on my lunch breaks and listened to music or podcasts. I started a blog. I also made an effort to try harder at work so I would spend less time complaining about it.

I knew that I wasn’t going to be there forever, and even though I was uncertain where I was going to end up, I knew I should try to find ways to make myself happy in the meantime. In the end, things fell into place and I was given the opportunity to create my dream job. Better things always come along if you’re open to the possibilities.

2. Enjoy the process while working toward goals

Mindfulness is all about living in the present moment, but how do you focus on the present while you’re working toward goals for the future? It’s an interesting paradox that I struggled with for a while. Over time, I realized that you can set goals for the future, but you have to be present and focused while you’re working to accomplish them.

I used to always rush through projects just to get them “over with,” but I realized that’s not a good way to live my life. Instead, I told myself to enjoy the process a little bit more.

When you’re always rushing through things in order to move on to the next project, you miss opportunities to be creative and produce your best work.

These days, I try to be more present when I’m working on something. Reflection is important, so I’ve started doing weekly and monthly check-ins with myself to stop myself from charging ahead into the future.

3. Focus on strengths over weaknesses

We all have our weaknesses and things that make us question our worthiness as humans. I know that I can be distant. I don’t share a lot of what I think or feel with those closest to me. I use sarcasm and humor to disguise my feelings. I’m a hypocrite. I’m lazy. I get distracted easily.

These are all parts of myself that I wish were different. But over the years, I’ve found that it’s much more productive and beneficial to truly focus on leveling up my strengths than trying to overhaul all of my weaknesses. Though I may be distant, I’m loyal to those I love. I’m lazy sometimes, but I do work really hard on the things I’m passionate about.

Of course you should try to be a better person in every way that you can, but there are parts of you that you simply don’t have to worry about so much about changing. Once I realized that I could focus my energy on taking my strengths to the next level instead of worrying about my weaknesses, my relationship with myself became a lot better.

4. Spend less time worrying about the past

I’ve come to genuinely accept that the past is the past and there’s nothing I can do about it. I can speculate about how things might be different in my life if I’d chosen to do things another way, but there is literally nothing productive about wishing I could change the past.

Sometimes I remind myself that even if I could go back in time and change things, there’s no saying that it would alter my life or make me a happier person. All I can do is move forward and use past mistakes to drive me closer to a better future.

5. Optimize what’s in your control

I’ll admit that I spend more time thinking about the future than I do the past. I get anxious not knowing what my life will look like in a few years, and I worry that I’m further behind than others (the good ol’ comparison trap).

No matter how much I think about it, I cannot control what my future will look like. I can take certain actions that will shape the course of my future, but there’s no telling what the future will hold.

Since there are actions I can take right now, I try to focus my energy, thoughts, and time on doing those actions instead of worrying about the future.

I’ve learned that it’s 100 times more productive to take action in the current moment than spend time overthinking what hasn’t even happened yet.

Which positive mindset shifts have changed your life?

After reading this post, I hope these mindset shift examples make you feel empowered to change any negative thought patterns you may have fallen into. We’re all human and it’s not possible to be positive or optimistic all the time, but you always have the power to make huge changes in your life by simply reframing your thoughts.

About the Author
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Hi, I'm Catherine! As the creator of The Blissful Mind, I love exploring ways to make life more fulfilling, especially when it comes to our daily routines, habits, and well-being.

18 Responses

  1. Hi Catherine, I recently stumbled into your blog and I’m so glad I did. This particular post really give me the much needed slap-in-the-face. Thank you for writing this. You don’t know how much this helps me. Thanks <3

  2. What a great post! Thank you. I would say that one major way that I’ve shifted my mindset is that I allow myself to be upset. In the past, when I would get upset about something, I would tell myself that I just shouldn’t. I would not allow myself to feel a feeling! How ridiculous is that?!

    Finally, I figured out that denying myself to experience my feelings wasn’t helpful, and I made a deal with myself. Whenever I’m upset about something, even if my brain thinks that it’s dumb and not worth my time, I allow myself to be upset. I give myself five minutes to feel and express however I need to. Then, I move on. It’s glorious! Honestly, I sometimes get really bored about two minutes in to my big sob-fest, so I move on early.

    1. Omg yes, Sarah! I think so many of us try to push aside our feelings instead of just letting them happen. And when we resist them, it often makes them worse. Love that you can just move on from a sob-fest because of it haha

  3. Hi Catherine, I love this post! I can relate to all 5 but in the past few months I’ve really tried to adopt point #4, letting go of the past and worrying less about it. I never realized that I was spending so much of my mental energy thinking and re-thinking past events and situations…when, other than learning lessons from those expeiences, there’s really no other reason to continue thinking about it. Thanks so much for sharing your wisdom!

  4. Catherine, this post is so SPOT on regarding my life at the moment. Everything is so stressful and the future is so vague. I agree with you that we should stay present and focus on the NOW. Loved this post!!!

  5. I am so guilty of #2! I get so excited about my goals that sometimes the present is so mundane. I need to focus on slowing down and enjoying the ride.

    It’s no easy task nowadays with the internet and something shiny and new right around the corner every second. As a new-ish blogger, I am constantly riddled with overwhelm and frustration as I work towards my goals.

    Thanks for the reminder☺️

  6. What a great post Catherine!

    I had to train myself to become a more positive person – to see the silver lining in every situation, to not live in the past and try not to worry so much about the future, to appreciate every step in the journey for what it is…

    It’s a work in progress but I see the benefits because I feel so much better and more empowered!

    Seppy |

  7. I am all for working on gratitude and shifting your mindset. However, I have a really hard time with toxic positivity. I think many people mistake overly positive phrases with being supportive. For instance, during this COVID crisis, I’m seeing a lot of people dismiss those who have lost jobs, feel depressed, or feeling uneasy about having to be home so often and teaching their children. They say things like “it could always be worse” or tell a story about how some good thing happened to them so it’s not that bad. This just bothers me. I think we should add to the positive by saying that it’s ok to not feel ok. Let’s feel not ok, but let’s not stay there. Instead of saying “it can always be worse”, how about saying “how can I help you during this difficult time?” That would make the positive mindset not be an invalidating one.

  8. Hi Catherine, absolutely loved your post. I too don’t like to share a lot of what I think or feel with closet ppl in my life. I too hide my feelings by using humour and sarcasm and I can be quite a lazya hypocrite too. But this is what makes us human. I can definitely say I resonate with your blog.

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